So...Ricky Martine is gay.
I am not surprised. Are you?
The above video from YouTube finishes with the sentiment that being gay these days shouldn't be an issue. I don't suppose that it is, for celebrities.
What I am not quite certain about is why Mr. Martin chooses now to "come out"? Nothing has changed between this week and last, or between 2010 and 2009...
So why now?
Is it perhaps (and call me cynical if you want) that he is trying to give his career a push? Is he using this personal and intimate part of his own being to capitalise and revitalise his profile?
Apparently he states he is only being honest about who he is now, as previously he was following the advice of his agents and other faceless and nameless entities.
He is his own man. He can make his own choices. I feel, however, that Ricky Martin's "coming out" is pointless.
Do you remember the famous Barbara Walters interview, where she asked him, in not too delicately a manner, about his sexuality?
It is clear to me, from his response, that he is gay. Not a big deal. Though at the time, it perhaps was a big deal for him. And I do respect that.
I also, if I am honest, get slightly irritated by the whole "coming out" process, or "journey".
Straight, heterosexual people, do not "come out". Why should gay people "come out".
Oh, and while I am on the subject, while I respect everyone's right to choose whether to be "out" or not, I do feel we "out and proud" gay people are being done a disservice, by those lurking in the closet.
"The Gay Rights Movement" is ongoing. It never stopped, although some people think it has served it's purpose. People are still being electrocuted and brain washed, in an attempt to be "cured" of homosexuality. In different parts of our world, gay people are still being ostracised, bashed and killed.
If every gay, bisexual and trans-gender person stood up, together, and were open about who they were, there would be so many of us that those cowards and criminals who treat us as sub-human would have no choice but to stand back and let us live our lives.
The true numbers would dwarf that silly statistic of 1 in 10 people who apparently aren't heterosexual.
If you are gay, people will, no doubt, already suspect. You are half way there already. So why do these certain people choose to lie, to marry members of the opposite sex, have children...only to decide in 20 years that they made a mistake. These selfish people, yes SELFISH people, then have impacted wholly and completely on not just their own life, but the lives of their spouse, children and wider family.
OKay, fear is a big thing for some people. But be scared and single. It is an option!
I absolutely understand that everyone is different, as is each person's situation. Some people might not be open about their sexuality because of religious pressures, or fear of being made homeless or unemployed. But, generally, most people could be honest without negative consequence. Some people just don't know themselves very well, unfortunately.
If your friend or child tells you he is bringing a date over to meet everyone, does it matter if the date is a male or female? More importantly, the focus, in my mind, should be that the person coming to meet me is decent, law abiding and with no agenda of harm and so on.
In a way, Mr. Martin's "coming out" highlights further that being gay is a "normal" aspect of the human condition, but I would love to see society evolve to the point where "coming out" is obsolete.
I hope Ricky Martin is happy and fulfilled, and that he can live a full and rewarding life.
11 comments:
The thing you said about if your child brings a date over really clicked with me. My mum is a pyschotherapist and she told me that when someone mentions their partner to her in a session she never assumes what gender they may be...as really...whether male/female or whatever...they play the same role in someone's life
Thank you Clarissa. That really validates what I said.
Being a psychotherapist must be a pretty difficult job at times.
Power to your mum!
My best friend from high school is gay and I also wonder why it's such an issue these days? It's not a choice, it's biology. I knew about Ricky Martin a million years ago, same with George Michael and Boy George. It's really even no longer a stigma in Hollywood as it once was. Just be who you are. :-)
Exactly, Evil Twin's Wife, exactly.
Great conversation here. I agree with everyone. Be who you are and be true to that. Unless you are a criminal...don't be true to that because then the popo come visit ya!
Nah, Momma. I agree, if you are a criminal...well, fight the urge!
Although...I think I would love a visit from you. I would have tea and biscuits out for you, waiting.
Yes...being a psychotherapist is hard...and being the daughter of one can be slightly weird. But my mum is great with how open she is.
My mother-in-law still doesn't believe that Rock Hudson was gay. Nope, she just won't believe it.
Why should anyone care who is with whom? If being gay is a choice then being straight is also a choice.
Ricky Martin is gay? Who knew? We all did. Who cares? Not me.
Your mum sounds wonderful, Clarissa.
Lori E, Rock ... Hubba Hubba! Too good looking to be straight, lol.
I'll be over in 5. Had a rough night, so tea and biscuits and good company sound fabulous!
Make it 10, I need to pop out for milk.
Put your feet up, and let your troubles drift away.
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